WORDS THAT HURT 

Good Morning my friends,

     It’s all about tone & attitude (delivery).. Those words echoed what seemed like almost daily in my first 20 years of marriage. Keri & I would start a conversation and before I knew it she would be upset and crying and I hadn’t even raised my voice. My frustrations would then set in, my voice levels would raise, my tone would become even less caring (not realizing) and the damage would continue. This endless cycle continued until finally we just quit talking. She didn’t want to be talked down to and I was tired of her wearing her feelings on her shoulders. I didn’t understand… She would tell me, “I’m not your employees, I’m your wife.. I don’t need sternness..”

      Over the last four years I’ve learned to slow down and listen first and speak second. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t even come close to perfecting it yet but I’m working on it. We communicate better now more than ever. There are still times when I let my frustrations in life over take me and I take it out on her or lately I’ve let the pain I’m experiencing to control my emotions but most of the time I’m able to see her hurt immediately and I apologize. We .usually start-over and I explain why I’m frustrated and it never had anything to do with her..

   Words effect each person differently. Communication is an art. There’s a way to communicate your message under control and calm, which will get a much better response than going in with your guns blazing and your voice raised with a lot of useless mean words. I’m learning that if what I am going to say isn’t going to change anything, then the best thing for me to do is to remain silent.. You should NEVER let words loose just because it’s going to make you feel better and prove a point.  

“They sharpen their tongues like swords and aim cruel words like deadly arrows.”(Psalm 64:3)

We’ve all been hurt by the words spoken by of others. Perhaps more often than we realize, those words were simply spoken thoughtlessly or carelessly. But there are times those words were meant to sting, to do damage and they did. Either way, when others criticize or say something hurtful or insensitive, our first reaction should be to ask ourselves if there is any truth in what they say. If so, we need to be honest with ourselves and ask God to help us correct whatever may need correcting. If those words were spoken maliciously, we need to turn our hurts over to God and ask Him to help us respond with forgiveness and grace. We must also remember that we have hurt others with our words too. We should never excuse it or ignore it, but admit it and seek forgiveness from God and the person we hurt.   

“Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips”. (Psalm 141:3)

MY CHALLENGE PRAYER for YOU…. Listen & think before you speak.. You have a filter so use it..  

I hope you all have a WONDERFUL day… Blessing & much love…D

ALWAYS…..Live YOUR life like it’s your LAST 24!!

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